I have been really struggling to understand gaslighting. To describe it as little as possible, I think it is about convincing someone else that they are the problem. My favorite explanation for the concept is as follows: Kali Rogers, founder of Blush Online Coaching, told Elite Daily that gaslighting, or the act of your partner… Continue reading How to spot Gaslighting
Tag: self-worth
This past week has been a busy one!
I spent every single day trying to find ways to improve the home. Just those little sort of things that make one a little happier when they are better. But this awful knot in my stomach, this bad feeling, this little voice keeps whispering in my head dark thoughts… Oh, please don’t drop me home… Continue reading This past week has been a busy one!
Respect versus Trust
While I was watching another fabulous Mark Rosenfeld YouTube video, he talked about how respect and trust seem to go hand-in-hand. Trust is something I have been desperately trying to reform, so this video really got my attention. He went over the proper means of communicating respect as the first point: usually communication involves talking,… Continue reading Respect versus Trust
“No one will ever do or say anything, that isn’t a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves in a moment.”
Interestingly enough, I saw it pointed out in a video that sometimes couples fight and get into more disagreements more when they do care passionately about certain matters. Basically, they are committed to sticking to the things that matter and refuse to back down on them. I should have noticed when it was happening about… Continue reading “No one will ever do or say anything, that isn’t a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves in a moment.”
Better Place – Rachel Platten
My ears seem to notice all sad music no matter where I go now. I don’t even have to hear the lyrics. I sense it immediately like a sixth sense. But while I was at Fed Ex today, I heard this one and it spoke volumes to me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pvI9PuGorwI This song title is especially comforting… Continue reading Better Place – Rachel Platten
Why I write – and the butterfly with the taste for death
I originally started this diary with the hopes to share my experiences with others. Maybe somebody else can relate with me, or maybe I can reassure somebody else that they are not alone. I do like to help others. But yes, I am here because I need help. I am struggling to be ok. But… Continue reading Why I write – and the butterfly with the taste for death
How do you prove a change from within?
Friday was a hard day. My friend at work saw something in me ripping me apart from the inside so much, that she decided to pull me aside for a smoke break. She wanted to know what left me so at unease and outright asked me. I told her that I didn't feel like anyone… Continue reading How do you prove a change from within?
“You’re a prize too”, but be grateful for that person you have
"You're a prize too". This was a concept really emphasized over and over in Mark Rosenfeld's videos. But he also emphasizes that we should treat one another in a relationship as if they might let go of you at any time. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=STcL54V40nM Once in a relationship, it is easy to take the other person for… Continue reading “You’re a prize too”, but be grateful for that person you have
The Journey Begins
Since turning 35, I have had to face some harsh realities about myself as a human being. This is a diary about recovery, hopes, and dreams. Years ago, I remember my Love being very excited about this picture. Now I finally understand why. He actually never saw the series with me, but I found that… Continue reading The Journey Begins
Sango and Miroku 